My Mistakes....

I am not my mistakes.. Do not judge me by my past mistakes…they set the stage for the woman that I have become….my mistakes taught me lessons I would never have learnt otherwise…

In the cradle of those experiences is where I blossomed into this strong woman that I am now.. Yes, my yesterday may not be the story of a legend.. but that’s only because a chapter does not make a book..

Now I can see clearly and time has made me wiser … I am grateful to you for helping me through those times.. but I will not let you paint my future with those tainted brushes…

It’s a brand new day..and all I see is hope…

Because I am human, I know that I will make more mistakes.. but with every mistake I ll ever make..I ll become a better and a wiser person…so please do not judge me by my mistakes…I am not my errors……

Find your voice

We all have something in each of us that makes us unique and different..Once we lose that defining essence of us,we lose ourselves..Now is the time to celebrate what makes us stand out...our strengths and our flaws..there is beauty in our imperfections...Find your own voice...Be assertive..This is your life to live..Live it to the fullest..seize every opportunity to learn and to grow...
And remember that in every fall there is a chance to rise, in every despair a chance to hope, in every end a chance to start  afresh, and for every heartbreak there is a chance to love again....

Healing the Soul

"Heal the Soul first
the healing of the body and mind will follow"
I just read that on twitter...How do you heal a broken soul? Where do broken hearts go? I do not presume to know the answers but I ll try......
The main desire of the heart is to love and be loved in return...
Anytime we put our hearts out and we get hurt it, breaks our souls.....Healing the soul is not something that can be done in a day..It takes time..Its about learning to love yourself..inspite of the rejection, the hurt and the pain....Its about learning to trust all over again..
Healing is a slow process....you have to be ready to let go of all the pain..
You have to be ready to forgive...Forgiveness is liberating... it frees the soul...
Live in the moment..there is nothing quite as exhilarating...
Healing the soul is a rejuvenation process..like the rebirth of a soul....
In the process, there are times when the pain will stab hard and you 'll feel like you re tearing down all over again...
Keep the faith and hold on tight....the pain will eventuallly go..but the scars will remain.....to remind you  to look before you love and to crawl before you fall...
In time you 'll rise above the pain and realise that you are a complete person and that the greatest happiness you 'll ever know is found in one place......you!

The gift of friendship

A friend is like a canvas

Where your paint all your feelings on

Your thoughts, your faults

Your tears, your fears

A friend is like your favourite movie

You never get tired of laughing at the same jokes

A friend is like the break of dawn

Inspiring you to aim higher…

A friend is like a vessel of armour

Always ready to defend you

A friend is like your fondest memory

You never want to let go

A friend is like your conscience

She  ‘ll always tell you the truth

A friend is rarer than Diamonds

And she is found in the most unlikely places……

Fighting fear

I am a soldier
in my armour girded for battle
I fight my fears all day long
Fear! you cannot control me
I have risen above you
Like the eastern sun
I rise again at the break  of dawn
as fleeting as the days of our lives
In love I find strength
So deeply have I loved
and fear has no hold on me

Finding home

The most important thing life has taught me so far is that it’s the little things that matter the most…the simple things we forget to value….

Imagine a world without the sun, life without music, a person without laughter, a story without love, a song without lyrics,…

We forget to remember that we were first all children…when the burdens of adulthood comes we lose our maps, and forget where we were and where we re going..

It is in these moments that we should be grateful for the simplest things and do the simplest things for others… like showing others you care and being there for them (yeah that counts..)

When the road seems all confusing and you feel lost and alone.. Don’t be afraid it only means that its time for you to touch base.. Go back to the place you were before it all became so muddled up.. Be grateful for the beauty of life…another sunset, the air we breathe, the gift of music, of love, of laughter and of life…and surely my friend, you will find home again

Make me green again

                                   

I am the pride of Africa,

I am the hills of Plateau,

I am the rocks of Abeokuta,

The waterfalls of Ogbomosho,

The islands of Lagos,

The coal of Enugu,

Out of my bellies flow rivers of black gold

In solitude my mind wanders

Wanders far into the past

I used to be green

Full of promises and full of hope

Today I sit still while my children bleed me to death

Consumed in deep hatred, they kill one another

And they say

Come let us dance

Let us celebrate our mother

Yet I feel the hunger of orphans,

The tears of widows,

And I weep, and weep again..

They fight and say that they are not one

Torn by the webs of religion and tribe..

What religion? What tribe?

Is  not love and peace the universal language?

Corruption reigns supreme

And the Law is fast asleep…

Waking only momentarily from its deep slumber

And staggering like a one-eyed man…

I used to be green..

Now I m but a shadow of my past

When men were men

When leaders were leaders…

Nostalgia feels my bones

I ache for the return of those times

Now the only green I see is

The algae of unemployment

Where is the pride in education?

Where is the dignity in labour?

Money has become their god,

And insecurity is the new song,

I sit still and wail…in silent screams..

Make me green again!

Make me green again!!

**Bagging the perfect man**

Yesterday, I was at the salon and was going through some fashion magazines, in one of them, a survey was done....lots of hot guys were asked what it was that attracted them to ladies..trust me, some said a great body..but majority of them said..., "there is nothing sexier than a confident woman with a great personality..who knows how to make a man still feel like a man."..
I was a little surprised..so bagging the "perfect man" has less to do with brazillian weaves and more to do with our personas...hmmmm...what exactly is confidence?what does a great personality mean.?.
I do not presume to know the answers, but I know that being confident is being sure of yourself,  your capabilities and knowing when to step aside..
 W hen a lady is confident, she is calm,composed, assertive, humble,has a nice sense of humour,and will not accept less than she knows she deserves..its in the way she walks, talks, maintains eye contacts, her entire aura and carriage..,her charm..,her charisma...,her style,.....
It has nothing to do with size, shape or colour,its that extra oomph factor that every woman has if she can reach deep enough......
So to all the confident ladies out there keep doing what u knw how to do best...and to the not so confident ones.....fake it till its real...

Hope

Hope...that thing that makes us hold on when all else falls apart..hope is faith in tomorrow.We hope to find love,we hope to drop those extra pounds, we hope to live the good life..... Everyday we live in the hope of a brighter tomorrow...
Hope is the fire in our bones that lights up our passions ...and makes us know that we can dare the impossible...so no matter the cards life deals us...let us keep hope alive...

Being Happy

Happiness is a state of mind.We are all capable of being as happy as we want.Being happy is not dependent on material possessions,on being single or married,or being the sexiest girl in the world (if it were Marilyn Monroe would not have committed sucide).Its far more than all of  this..
To be happy is to be completely at peace with yourself, and the world.It is a state of contentment..Loving yourself and extending that love to those around you.It is being grateful for the little blessings..it is living in the moment.
My life mantra is "Life is beautiful".See beauty in everything.Let us view life as a gift.The challenges we face are meant make us better versions of ourselves and teach us lessons we would probably never have learnt otherwise..
Being happy is a choice.Make a decision today to enjoy every moment of your life..Be happy