As a young woman, there is the familiar hunger for validation.
Validation to me is the reliance on others to affirm one's self worth.
In the past, I have sought to be validated by my friends, family and my lover. Sought their love as a confirmation that I am worthy of love and acceptance. Sought the validation of my boss and teachers that I am smart and intelligent.
In all these, I have come to realise that no one else can validate you. You can only be validated in yourself when you know who you are.
That is where self respect lies. Knowing your self worth. Believing in your potential. Knowing that you are worthy of love and that doesn't depend on who came, who stayed or who left.
Knowing that you are smart, intelligent and beautiful and that doesn't depend on the size of your bank account or the number on the scale; walking with this knowledge and determined to improve at everything.
Being validated in one's self is the zenith of self confidence. It is the self respect that gives you the courage to walk away when someone treats you shabbily knowing that you deserve more than they are offering.
The need for validation from others will only end when we see ourselves as God sees us...as Priceless. I am validated by God as his daughter set apart for the praise of his glory and that is all the validation I need.
So whether friends come or friends go or lovers come or lovers go..my self worth remains the same.
I am priceless, validated by the blood of Jesus, transforming daily into his likeness. I do not need a man's surname to validate me, or a child to validate my womanhood, or a man's ring to validate my desirability or a masters degree or a PHD, or a promotion at work. These things are good. But without them I will still be fine, complete and whole.
My validation comes from God.
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